Archive for Self-Acceptance
The minute you name something, you set up fear
Posted by: | CommentsThe topic of living without fear has always been a fascinating one, since most people are plagued by one or more fear. I bought a lecture recording from Ramtha about this topic, his lecture was extremely disappointing to me offering no practical advices. Ramtha basically said that we cannot be truly happy if we have fear, it was filled with some of his stories. In fact, that recording was so disappointing that I decided to stop to listen to Ramtha for good.
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Maturity is when you have come to term with your religion, your ethnicity, your social groups. When you are finished with all these things you can mature. Starting to learn about yourself from that standpoint is very beneficial because you no longer need to pay attention to any of the rules from these groups that you have chosen to imprison yourself.
See , may be you are a so-called African-American or a WASP, if you have to live your life by the rules of these groups, it is really impossible to be your true self on the same vein you do not grow adult by holding the hand of your father.
During this journey of evolution, we have at some point let go of past relationships, this is what I started to do last week, I bought a mp3 called the Freedom exercises from Story Waters and Lee Harris. I did the release drill on my way to Portugal little I knew that this exercise actually does work powerfully. …
I felt nothing special during the exercise itself, however, I understood the teaching for me in it. I had to let go of past relationship and release attachment. There is really no point to stay in spiritual infancy!
I came to a term with many thing already for instance, I don’t understand the nationality concept, it is a rotten thing from my standpoint, I do not want it. I met an African guy in Lisbon, he really wanted to know where I m born , where my parent were born, I do not care about any of these things, it is irrelevant, YOU DO NOT GO THERE BY STAYING HERE.
You do not want to leave your hometown because you are afraid to lose the connection to your parents and friends ? As you evolve you will no longer be compatible with your past relationships , you might attempt to keep them by fearing to be alone or something, but, it will not work. Read More→
Recapitulation: How to heal your past
Posted by: | CommentsThere is a shamanic technique called recapitulation the idea is to change the energy (attractor field) of a series of past events that had affected the way you are today.
By changing, the energy of the events then the past events are also changed and the way they affect you today will be different.
I discovered this technique by accident and I posted about it in the past. Seth in his book called “Seth Speaks” says interesting words about an equal method.
“Pretend a particular event happened that greatly disturbed you. In your mind imagine it not simply wiped out, but replaced by another event of more beneficial nature. Now this must be done with great vividness and emotional validity, and many times.
It is not a self-deception.
The event that you choose will automatically be a probable event, which did in fact happen, thought it is not the event you chose to perceive in your given probable past.
Telepathically, if the process is done correctly, your idea will also affect any people who were connected with the original event, though they can choose to reject or accept your version.“
Seth Speak, page 232.
In practice, you choose an emotion or a feeling that is impairing your life. For instance, you could take the feeling associated with procrastination.
Go in a comfortable trance state and mentally go back in your past try to find the oldest occurrence of the behavior. Read More→
Your constant thoughts form your reality
Posted by: | CommentsStory about the limiting belief : Interesting people are always taken
Nowadays, many women and men share a limiting belief about people availability. In men it often takes the form of the belief : Interesting or hot or beautiful women are always taken.
With women it often likes “Good guys or real men are always taken” or the worse form “Nowadays there is no longer any real men or good guys”. Sometime it has an age element a belief that younger is better or only the younger can secure an interesting man. Men have also something like this in the belief that to secure a so-called particularly beautiful or hot woman, a man needs to be rich or famous. Those are just belief systems. People with such beliefs create a reality that don’t serve them well and constantly reinforce it with their constant thoughts. It is a vicious circle because often they try to escape that belief system to only reinforce it, they will try to look for an interesting person that is single to only find out that the person is taken. It is not possible to be greater than your belief system, you do not create what you want, you create what you believe.
I have a story that illustrate this defeating strategy perfectly.
Two years ago, I met a woman that I nickname here Clarisse, I was still living in Belgium, Clarisse was interested in me and she asked me if I was single, I told her I was single.
Then she didn’t believe it, she said I must have someone somewhere. It telegraphed to me that Clarisse was quite insecure this turned me off. She had that belief that the people she is attracted to are taken and unavailable, She also believed that younger women were better than her. One time she saw my photostream on Flickr and she commented that I’m mostly with younger girls than her. In fact, she only focused on the pictures were I’m with younger folks and sometime also the folks that are my age look younger. Read More→
Life is crap …at least for some people
Posted by: | CommentsI met a couple of interesting people lately, through observing them, I learned some important lessons. I will not use their real name, I’m calling them Gareth and Judith.
Gareth told me that he is pretty much fearless, he also laments that he is unhappy because of the absence of a romantic interest in his life. He said that he tried to “pick up” women in bars but he didn’t work for him. I suggested that he would have more chance if he could approach some girls in bus, train, park or library or some stores.
He said he can’t approach in bus because he doesn’t feel safe. But, how comes he is fearless and he can’t approach a girl, there is a quite bit of denial with him, you can’t chant being fearless, if you are afraid to approach a stranger. Now, Gareth sees his “shiness” as a part of himself, he can’t think of him without it, this explains the cause of the denial because ,he has developed his own idea of being fearless and it is based on what he is himself, he can’t think beyond that.
People cannot be grander than their thoughts.
Judith told me that she is a child abuse survivor, she constantly uses her past as an excuse for the life, she has now, I told her, that to change her life , she has to change her thoughts but she answered that she cannot change her thoughts because she has been abused in the past. I tried to explain to her that she has a messy life because she is focused on creating one, she replied that she knows then I asked her, why she doesn’t stop it ? Then she answered that she has been abused in the past.
I gave her baby first step exercise to help her change, I told her to write on paper, what she wants for her life, I said that I couldn’t continue the discussion if she doesn’t do the exercise I can’t spend time with someone contented with the status quo. She said she can’t do the exercise because she has been abused in the past and she said the help of a professional psychotherapist could be better, I agreed. I haven’t heard from her since.
I gave her baby first step exercise to help her change, I told her to write on paper, what she wants for her life, I said that I couldn’t continue the discussion if she doesn’t do the exercise I cant spend time with someone contented with the status quo. She said she can’t do the exercise because she has been abused in the past, she needs the help of a professional psychotherapist, I agreed. I haven’t heard of her since with was 4 days ago.
Both Judith and Gareth can’t go beyond their comfort zone, they see themselves one way and it seems that it is impossible for them to project any further. The frustration they feel, the unhappiness and the search for a form of solution, is their “true” self trying to encourage change where the personality is content with the status quo, the difference between the “true” self and the personality causes the frustration, one part of the being want to evolve when another part want to remain the same. Read More→
