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How to use the release methods
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I designed my own release techniques program, and it works for me. But, what is releasing anyway?
It is a series of very simple techniques that allow to let go, un-focus, abandon emotional resistances.
When you let go of all the emotional charge from a limiting belief, i is easy to let go of that belief to something more beneficial.
If you are working on manifesting something you can release on it to let go of your attachment and aversion both attachment and aversion are beliefs that prevent you to have what you want.
The attachment causes lack and it says to you: “You do not have it.”
Your aversion is your way to push away from you what you want due to conflicting beliefs.
For example, if you value generosity, and if you want to be rich, and you think rich people are not generous. That will create a conflict because, you want to honor being generous more than being rich. Now, you can use release techniques and solve this conflict and create a situation where you are rich and generous by discharging the negative emotions caused by the conflict. When there is no conflict. It is easy to be what you choose to be and have it all.
You could learn release techniques from Larry Crane at www.releasetechnique.com or from Hale Dwoskin at www.sedona.com
I tried both methods and I haven’t been that lucky with them. The things started to click, when I began to use a stress-reduction technique called Open Focus. After a few weeks of Open Focus training one form of release was finally producing persistent results.
Polarity Surfing
They are people that want something because it will give them pleasure. These people tend to develop some level of attachment. They are people who want to create something to run away of something else. For example, they want to manifest wealth to run away of poverty. These people tend to develop some level of aversion.
You have to know what is your motivation strategy. You want a partner because you want to run away of loneliness, or because you want to share love.
In the later case, there is a risk to develop strong attachment to the outcome. In this case, the basic release technique will work perfectly. You will have to let go of that “wanting.”
A good book that will teach you do to just that is Reality Creation Technique by Frederick Dodson.
Now, if you want something to avoid something else then you have to deal with your aversions. For example, if you want to more money because you feel you do not have enough. That is clearly an aversion to poverty. In this case, the basic technique might or might not work well for you.
But, what will definitively work is polarity surfing. It means being totally OK with what you are trying t run away from.
An example of polarity surfing would be as follows. these questions below by “yes” or “no.” Go back and forth until you feel at peace or acceptance about the issue.
Questions:
Can I allow myself to be poor as best as I can ?
Can I allow myself to be rich as best as I can ?
You can also do it like outlined below. If you feel that you have a lot of resistance.
With that one, you let go of the resistance feeling.
Can I allow myself to resist being poor as much as I can ?
Can I allow myself to accept being poor as much as I can ?
To actually manifest more wealth you would go like this:
Can I allow myself to abandon being poor ?
Can I do it more ?
Can I do it even more ?
Can I allow myself to wealthier ?
Can I do it more ?
Can I do it even more ?
I came up with this style of release after I read the book “Love Yourself” by Larry Crane. So it would be nice that you read the book too. If you are interested in using these techniques.
Stop-negative-pattern release
One technique that works well for me, and that I like to use with my friends or the people who request help.
It is a technique that directly stops the current preferred negative pattern.
Let says that you think that going out to party suck. Let says you have thousands of reason why parties suck. In this case, you can use the following release that will stop your negative thought pattern and allow you to go in another direction.
Just go back and forth answering yes or no.
Can I forget everything I know about party and allow myself to have an awesome party tonight ?
Can I allow it even more ?
and Even more?
The same release. If for example, you have thousands of reason why man or woman are flawed and why it is difficult to find a good one.
Can I forget everything I know about men/women and allow myself to meet a loving partner this month ?
Can I allow it more ?
Can I allow it even more ?
These styles of releases were for me a game changer. I threw everything. I knew to the toilet because these techniques are a lot simpler, and they are very effective.
You will no longer hear me talk about radiant circuit, love sending, energy work and Co.
For example, I found out that answering the question: “Can I allow myself to receive love?” It was just as effective as any amount of love meditation.
Approach Anxiety
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“scared to approach her?”
Many guys suffer from what is called “Approach Anxiety”. This is the fear of approaching and interacting with a stranger you find attractive.
Approach anxiety can only exist in a reality where someone is looking for love or approval outside of himself. Looking for love outside of yourself cause indeed anxiety because 1) there is risk you do not receive it 2) there is risk of rejection or that your sense of self worth risk to be threatened causing an even more deep sense of not being loved.
There is no love outside of yourself. Looking for love where it is not, can only cause trouble and disappointment.
Once you decide to love yourself to give yourself approval. You will not get any anxiety from approaching strangers you find attractive even if they reject you. In fact, in many cases strangers will appraoch you instead.
If someone rejects you, it is only for two reasons because you are also rejecting yourself on some level (Like attracts like) or it is about them, rejecting themselves on some level.
Guys who do not love themselves think they are not enough and that they need to do something about it such as learning seduction techniques. What the seductionists seducers do is to put a good show for a girl and they hope to be rewarded for it.
Just like a 4-year old kid would do to get approval from the parents. Seduction is for emotionally immature people that are still in small children within.
Seduction experts will tell you that the fear of rejection will never truly leave you. Of course, being a seduction expert is basically chasing in the outside what is not really there. It can only feel painful at the end.
If you suffer from approach anxiety learn to give yourself approval and decide to be the source of love.
Love is a state of givingness. No need to be a love-hungry cannibal 
There is a technique you can do that is called polarity surfing. It is very simple. You just have to accept both sides of a topic by accepting both sides they dissolve in each other then it is easy to decide which side you want to experience. You are no longer in a state of resistance.
If you drop resisting being rejected then you free the energy, you can allow yourself to be accepted.
Here is the polarity surfing release you can do:
- Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be rejected by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be accepted by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to love and accept myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be guilty and reject myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it.
Go back and forth between these release until you feel at peace or some relief. You can continue with:
Can I allow myself to be my own source of love?
Can I deny myself to be my own source of love?
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Are you trapped in a hermetic box?
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I call a hermetic box a narrow belief system shared by many that cause suffering. Hermetic box are portions of mass consciousness.
They are many many hermetic boxes all over the world. What I can observe is that once you have adopted a hermetic box it is difficult if not nearly impossible to see outside of it. Yet there is a larger truth than what is considered true in the hermetic box.
“My country is the greatest country in the world” is such a hermetic box. The people trapped in it are probably not likely to recognize what is better and more efficient in other countries.
The achievement of others will be regarded as lesser than what they really are or in some case the achievements will be re-appropriated.
The other day, I was approached in a bar by some guy who told me that we should be friend. He started to explain how is so successful in life etc….
Why does he assume that talking about his successful life will turn me into his friend?
Because, this is hermetic box reasoning, looking for approval!
“Life is hard, there is not much job!” Hermetic box reasoning again.
I heard that the governments and a cabal of bankers are responsible for the economic downturn.
But, in a larger context we could say that a mass consciousness that constantly beat itself up can only beat itself up.
- The consciousness that wants a tasty meal ready in less than 15 minutes or otherwise a refund
- The consciousness that wants a large house without being aligned with owning such a property.
- The consciousness that wants instant gratification
This kind of consciousness is more likely to cause economic collapse than anything. You can change the banks but it will be more useful to change mentality.
When you are aware of the hermetic boxes you can DECIDE to let go of the game and choose to manifest your preferred reality.
Let says that you created some financial mess for yourself. You cannot solve your financial mess by staying at your current vibration. A problem created in a hermetic box cannot be solved from the consciousness level of the box. People inside the box do not see the reality that exist outside of it. The box is hermetic. The only things they can do is to complain how life is hard and how life sucks.
If you want solve for example your financial problem you will have to quit completely your hermetic box.
How many of your beliefs are really your beliefs?
Why do you keep holding on beliefs that might cause you some suffering?
The reality experienced in a hermetic box is only the reality perceived as true. Therefore, they do not think of something better or simply different. If you want a more interesting life. Learn to play, leave your hermetic boxes. You leave your hermetic boxes by focusing on a preferred reality and by dropping judgment the stuffs outside your own life.
Narrow reasoning vs. preferred reality reasoning
Save us all! – I’m not in danger the Universe is safe!
Life sucks! – Life is great!
They are against us – I give myself approval and I give approval to others.
There isnt enough – The Universe is abundance, because, I’m part of the Universe I allow myself to experience the abundance of the Universe
I’m NOT enough!!!! – I belong to the universe, I cannot not be outside of it therefore I belong I m enough.
Your sins make you unlovable – My sins made me growth.
…..Any limitation in life is experienced as a choice to be in some form of “box” or narrow reality.
Resistance Is Futile
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There is something to learn from the famous quote from the Borg in Star Trek : “Resistance is Futile!”
Because, it is the true. Resistance is indeed really futile. No matter what you resist it will persist. So why torture yourself by resisting?
Consider these examples. Some countries are fighting what they refer as illegal immigration yet in these countries the numbers of so-called illegal immigrants are increasing not decreasing in spite of the fight.
The war on drug? Illicit drug use statistics have barely changed during the last decade. If there is an improvement. it is not because of law enforcement and prevention. It is because individual have increased their level of consciousness and moved on to something more productive.
It is the same with the war on terror, people have put a lot their attention in to that therefore they feel more terrorized than ever.
What we focus on individually or collectively tend to manifest. The only way out is to release, let go and move on. If you do not like something in the world you live in, bless it and put your attention to something else. Remember, it is not that you are in the world but you are your world. If you want enchantment in the world then affirm enchantment. See the enchanting things and bless them. The more you put energy into this the more it will become prominent into your life.
If you think you are ugly and you want to be beautiful. Follow what Audrey Hepburn recommends:
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”
Humor is one of the best way to release and let go. Consider journalist Norman Cousins who was diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis in 1964, a rare disease. They gave him a few months to live. But, Norman Cousins used humor and vitamin C to cure his disease. He watched a lot funny movies. He laughed, he laughed. Laughter is a way great to release and let go of tension and buried emotions the source of disease. It added 26 years to Norman Cousins life.
How to measure your spiritual growth
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, it is difficult to know if we are really progressing spiritually. We often have the feeling that we are standing still when in fact we are evolving fast. It is bit like being in an airplane at high-altitude. The plane is flying pretty fast but when you look by the window there is the impression of very slow movement.
This is what happens when you are on a path of accelerated spiritual growth, you will not notice how fast you are really going.
Let me propose you a few things you could do to measure or gauge your spiritual growth:
- Read again a spiritual book that you read in the past. See, if you are reaching a deeper understanding or if your opinion is different about the content. Change in opinion and understanding indicates an evolution in your understanding.
- Put yourself in situation that you used to react inadequately. If you still react inadequately then no growth has been made in that area.
- People you used to know for a long time are leaving your life suddenly without you being able to contact them back. This one is happening to me a lot;).
- You are moving to a foreign country.
- You feel safe in situation that you used to previously feel fearful.
- Creating your reality is getting easier.
Any of the above is a sign of progression in your spiritual journey!
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