Story about the limiting belief : Interesting people are always taken

Nowadays, many women and men share a limiting belief about people availability. In men it often takes the form of the belief : Interesting or hot or beautiful women are always taken.
With women it often likes “Good guys or real men are always taken” or the worse form “Nowadays there is no longer any real men or good guys”. Sometime it has an age element a belief that younger is better or only the younger can secure an interesting man. Men have also something like this in the belief that to secure a so-called particularly beautiful or hot woman, a man needs to be rich or famous. Those are just belief systems. People with such beliefs create a reality that don’t serve them well and constantly reinforce it with their constant thoughts. It is a vicious circle because often they try to escape that belief system to only reinforce it, they will try to look for an interesting person that is single to only find out that the person is taken. It is not possible to be greater than your belief system, you do not create what you want, you create what you believe.
I have a story that illustrate this defeating strategy perfectly.
Two years ago, I met a woman that I nickname here Clarisse, I was still living in Belgium, Clarisse was interested in me and she asked me if I was single, I told her I was single.
Then she didn’t believe it, she said I must have someone somewhere. It telegraphed to me that Clarisse was quite insecure this turned me off. She had that belief that the people she is attracted to are taken and unavailable, She also believed that younger women were better than her. One time she saw my photostream on Flickr and she commented that I’m mostly with younger girls than her. In fact, she only focused on the pictures were I’m with younger folks and sometime also the folks that are my age look younger. Read More→