Archive for Relationship
Connecting with people
Posted by: | CommentsConnecting with people and having good rapport and relationship with them is no secret, it is often something to do with beliefs and attitude. But, let keeps the beliefs and attitude aside for a second.
If your energy body and particularly your aura is small (as opposed to expanded several feet away around your body), you will not be able to connect well with people actually you will feel a distrust or shyness as you aren’t receive any information. You can remedy with a simple energy medicine routine:
Your Aura - part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfaV9ADD6Ns
Your Aura - Part 2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErIp2A_-2Ts
The bridges radiant circuits support harmony and the exchange of information between people, particularly intuition about others (EP, page 260). Many men have their bridge circuits running in the wrong direction, it causes them to have difficulty to connect with strangers. The best, I could recommend is to consciously activate your bridge circuits (See the book Energy Psychology by Feinstein)
Law Of Attraction and Seduction
Posted by: | CommentsThese questions come up a lot in private messages “How to use this stuff to get my ex back ?” and “How to use this stuff to attract a mate ?”. Stuff being the techniques discussed on this blog. This isn’t “a pick up and seduction” blog but here is my take on these questions.
Let starts with the question of getting an ex back.
Before you met someone you magnetize yourself to certain characteristics that are attractive to you. May be, you are magnetic to kindness, generosity, spirit and honesty. You believe these characteristics are desirable and because your beliefs form your reality , you will tend attract people that reinforce these beliefs this include your mate.
Eventually, you start a relationship with a mate with the characteristics you value so much, you are so focused in the begin on these characteristics that you ignore other characteristics that otherwise would have been unattractive to you. You are also so much flooded by the attention of your mate that you actually have no interest to see anything wrong. You have a nice relationship focused on the positive aspects of each other.
Later on, you might for one reason or another slightly change your focus and notice that you do not like XYZ characteristics in your mate or another possible scenario, you lose your job and find difficulty to find another one, it might as a consequence fill yourself with a belief in your unworthiness, this unworthiness will be picked up by your partner and problem may arise as a result of this new belief. This is one of the possible scenario among many. Any change of beliefs will cause an adjustment of your relationships for the better, status quo or worse.
In the first case, you start to focus on aspects you do not like about your partner you change your attractor field to attract more of that. This is especially true if you keep focusing over and over about these unwanted characteristics. Over time, you find a large chunk of characteristics that you do not like, they might not had been there in the begin as some of them can be the result of new beliefs.
Once you fill yourself with the new attractor field of what you do not want from someone then your relationship will begin to decay. Very simple !
If you want to re-attract someone you will have again to focus and cherish the characteristics that brought that person into your life, but even with that there is no guarantee that this specific person will get back at you but it is certain on the other hand that you will magnetize and attract someone with the characteristics you want, this is the Law Of Attraction !
Now for the folks who want to attract a brand new mate into their life the principle are the same. Often guys make the mistake to believe that women have certain attributes and if they master certain seduction techniques they will be able to secure the love and attention of women. They believe that they need to be an alpha male to attract women, they believe women “flake”, women are this , women are that!
What is not understood is that beliefs aren’t attributes of reality, the guys who adopt these beliefs essentially create a reality where they get these response, they don’t want “Let just be a friend” response, cancel date response, etc…etc…and they think that with certain skills they can avoid these responses.
Again, the Law Of Attraction is always at play, whether you are conscious of it or not. Therefore, If you believe that people are a certain way and that you need certain tactics to get them, this is exactly what you will get.
It will be a lot more easier for these guys to write down a list of characteristics they like and want from women and get the feeling that they are attracting women with these characteristics to them. Now, this is only half of it, there is a part where ALL the repellents must be removed. The most common are “I’m not enough”,”I’m worthless” ,”I’m unworthy”,”women give up on me”.
If you have these beliefs you can be sure that will be picked up by the people you meet.
So the method is simple: Make a list of characteristics of what you want, focus on this list feel the appreciation and reinforce the belief that you are attracting that in your life (Beliefs form reality) , work to remove the resistance and limiting beliefs (EFT 
and may be the Sedona method are good for that)
Maturity is when you have come to term with your religion, your ethnicity, your social groups. When you are finished with all these things you can mature. Starting to learn about yourself from that standpoint is very beneficial because you no longer need to pay attention to any of the rules from these groups that you have chosen to imprison yourself.
See , may be you are a so-called African-American or a WASP, if you have to live your life by the rules of these groups, it is really impossible to be your true self on the same vein you do not grow adult by holding the hand of your father.
During this journey of evolution, we have at some point let go of past relationships, this is what I started to do last week, I bought a mp3 called the Freedom exercises from Story Waters and Lee Harris. I did the release drill on my way to Portugal little I knew that this exercise actually does work powerfully. …
I felt nothing special during the exercise itself, however, I understood the teaching for me in it. I had to let go of past relationship and release attachment. There is really no point to stay in spiritual infancy!
I came to a term with many thing already for instance, I don’t understand the nationality concept, it is a rotten thing from my standpoint, I do not want it. I met an African guy in Lisbon, he really wanted to know where I m born , where my parent were born, I do not care about any of these things, it is irrelevant, YOU DO NOT GO THERE BY STAYING HERE.
You do not want to leave your hometown because you are afraid to lose the connection to your parents and friends ? As you evolve you will no longer be compatible with your past relationships , you might attempt to keep them by fearing to be alone or something, but, it will not work. Read More→
Man Magnet: Not really, she did everything wrong from start to end!
Posted by: | CommentsI met some girl a few days ago and she tried to seduce me but she did everything wrong, it was interesting for me to observe, I will use this story to make a comment on calibration.
A very useful skill to develop. According to the selfhelpimprovement website :
Calibration is a communication skill which uses intuition. Without other people having to tell you, you develop a feeling of their intentions, beliefs and understanding. Knowing this will enable you to react appropriately to the situation. It is highly effective when relating with other people and deciding on what to do during a critical moment.
That girl lets call her , Clara, she unfortunately didn’t calibrate and made so many mishaps.
We met in a restaurant and because we smiled to each other, we started a discussion.
She seemed very interested in me. She said that she studied bio-chemistry but that now she try to pursue a career as a singer, she also told me that she is religious (Christian) , she works Saturday and Sunday in a church. Read More→
Your constant thoughts form your reality
Posted by: | CommentsStory about the limiting belief : Interesting people are always taken
Nowadays, many women and men share a limiting belief about people availability. In men it often takes the form of the belief : Interesting or hot or beautiful women are always taken.
With women it often likes “Good guys or real men are always taken” or the worse form “Nowadays there is no longer any real men or good guys”. Sometime it has an age element a belief that younger is better or only the younger can secure an interesting man. Men have also something like this in the belief that to secure a so-called particularly beautiful or hot woman, a man needs to be rich or famous. Those are just belief systems. People with such beliefs create a reality that don’t serve them well and constantly reinforce it with their constant thoughts. It is a vicious circle because often they try to escape that belief system to only reinforce it, they will try to look for an interesting person that is single to only find out that the person is taken. It is not possible to be greater than your belief system, you do not create what you want, you create what you believe.
I have a story that illustrate this defeating strategy perfectly.
Two years ago, I met a woman that I nickname here Clarisse, I was still living in Belgium, Clarisse was interested in me and she asked me if I was single, I told her I was single.
Then she didn’t believe it, she said I must have someone somewhere. It telegraphed to me that Clarisse was quite insecure this turned me off. She had that belief that the people she is attracted to are taken and unavailable, She also believed that younger women were better than her. One time she saw my photostream on Flickr and she commented that I’m mostly with younger girls than her. In fact, she only focused on the pictures were I’m with younger folks and sometime also the folks that are my age look younger. Read More→
