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Approach Anxiety
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“scared to approach her?”
Many guys suffer from what is called “Approach Anxiety”. This is the fear of approaching and interacting with a stranger you find attractive.
Approach anxiety can only exist in a reality where someone is looking for love or approval outside of himself. Looking for love outside of yourself cause indeed anxiety because 1) there is risk you do not receive it 2) there is risk of rejection or that your sense of self worth risk to be threatened causing an even more deep sense of not being loved.
There is no love outside of yourself. Looking for love where it is not, can only cause trouble and disappointment.
Once you decide to love yourself to give yourself approval. You will not get any anxiety from approaching strangers you find attractive even if they reject you. In fact, in many cases strangers will appraoch you instead.
If someone rejects you, it is only for two reasons because you are also rejecting yourself on some level (Like attracts like) or it is about them, rejecting themselves on some level.
Guys who do not love themselves think they are not enough and that they need to do something about it such as learning seduction techniques. What the seductionists seducers do is to put a good show for a girl and they hope to be rewarded for it.
Just like a 4-year old kid would do to get approval from the parents. Seduction is for emotionally immature people that are still in small children within.
Seduction experts will tell you that the fear of rejection will never truly leave you. Of course, being a seduction expert is basically chasing in the outside what is not really there. It can only feel painful at the end.
If you suffer from approach anxiety learn to give yourself approval and decide to be the source of love.
Love is a state of givingness. No need to be a love-hungry cannibal 
There is a technique you can do that is called polarity surfing. It is very simple. You just have to accept both sides of a topic by accepting both sides they dissolve in each other then it is easy to decide which side you want to experience. You are no longer in a state of resistance.
If you drop resisting being rejected then you free the energy, you can allow yourself to be accepted.
Here is the polarity surfing release you can do:
- Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be rejected by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be accepted by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to love and accept myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be guilty and reject myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it.
Go back and forth between these release until you feel at peace or some relief. You can continue with:
Can I allow myself to be my own source of love?
Can I deny myself to be my own source of love?
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Being too much in your head!
Posted by: | CommentsBeing in your head instead of your body and your whole beingness is what make communication difficult.
If you talk to someone while being in your head chance is that you are not reading the energy of the situation to read the energy you need to be present.
In order to be present, you need to be in your body. Be aware of your body and observe what is being said and expressed to you. This is the way to read the energy of a situation. Eventually, you will have to match and follow the energy this the way to create a connection.
For example, if someone is expressing appreciation for a particular topic. Acknowledge it and get the other person talk about that topic some more, get the other person even more enthusiastic.
Follow the enthusiasm, breath the enthusiasm, soon you will be in sync with that person energy.
You will have a good connection. Every time, you match and follow someone energy, you establish a connection.
The habit of taking deep slow breathes can help you to reconnect.
The REAL Secret To Irresistibly Attract Someone
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion from Gavin. M: Can I use sending out love to someone to seduce that person, I’m madly in love with a girl on my campus? She keeps ignoring me, I love her.
Answer:
Well, yes, very definitively, I call the technique the “Super Blessing”. It is based on sending love and appreciation.
HOWEVER, you have to ask yourself one question.
Why would you want to seduce someone who obviously isn’t attracted to you already?
Can you honestly answer me this question?
Gavin. M: I think that I will be happier, I’m really attracted to her. I would feel good about myself, if we had a relationship. It will increase my sense of self-worth. I will feel appreciation for myself. I will be somebody.
Here is the deal. Can you for a minute, imagine yourself with a high self-esteem, high-confidence, healthy self-appreciation and high sense of self-worth?
See how it feels from that standpoint. You see from that vantage standpoint, you are more likely to be a “vibrational match” for the type of person that you desire. Providing that you accept the idea of a relationship, you might attract such a person without any particular effort on your part.
I know this first hand. Because, when I became a “vibrational match” for the kind of person I wanted. I attracted and got involved with that person without any particular effort, no seduction game. Read More→
Review: The vortex – where the law of attraction assembles all cooperative relationship
Posted by: | CommentsFor a while I took a pause from reading a lot of books, but, I recently returned to reading a lot. I’m currently reading The Science of Breath by Swami Rama and Rudolph Ballentine. At the end of last year, I read a very interesting book about relationship from Abraham-Hicks. That book called The Vortex angered many people as the concept for many will be new and may cause controversy. You can read the mixed opinions about the book on Amazon.com, I also posted an excerpt of the book in my newsletter, It made some people so angry that they unsubscribed from my newsletter.
The book is divided in six parts. The first part – Your vortex m and the law of attraction – Learning to attract joyous co-creators explains the importance of relationship in the human experience , how we attract the kind of people we have in life and how to focus with the Law Of Attraction on allowing joy to create better relationship.
The second part – Mating and the law of attraction – The perfect mate – getting one, being one , attracting one, this part is very relevant for the people trying to attract a mate with the law of attraction, many people miss the point that most of the work will be on yourself ! Key information that will probably upset many, there is the idea out there that self-change is not important. Well, self-change is critically important if you persistently fail to attract a partner this 30 pages + section of the book will help you greatly if you seek a mate.
Part three is called Sexuality and the law of attraction , I guess that this section of the book angered many people in North America as the ideas expressed in that part of the book don’t really fit with anything taught by traditional media on sexuality. Part 4 is about parenting, part 5 about the key concept of self-appreciation without it , you cannot really except to build happy relationship.
The last part is a transcript of Abraham-Hicks workshop , you also have that workshop with the CD provided with the book, the Abrahams-Hicks teaching style is close to Ramtha-style of teaching. It was OK for me, I learned one or two things from the CD.
Overall, a very good book , my rating 5 stars out 5.
Connecting with people
Posted by: | CommentsConnecting with people and having good rapport and relationship with them is no secret, it is often something to do with beliefs and attitude. But, let keeps the beliefs and attitude aside for a second.
If your energy body and particularly your aura is small (as opposed to expanded several feet away around your body), you will not be able to connect well with people actually you will feel a distrust or shyness as you aren’t receive any information. You can remedy with a simple energy medicine routine:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfaV9ADD6Ns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErIp2A_-2Ts
The bridges radiant circuits support harmony and the exchange of information between people, particularly intuition about others (EP, page 260). Many men have their bridge circuits running in the wrong direction, it causes them to have difficulty to connect with strangers. The best, I could recommend is to consciously activate your bridge circuits (See the book Energy Psychology by Feinstein)
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