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The “Yes, I love you” technique
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Tiegarten Park – Berlin
This technique will help you to increase your self-appreciation and self-acceptance. It was inspired to me after I read of a similar approach in the Larry Crane’s excellent book “Love Yourself and Let the Other Person Have It Your Way
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You can do it at front of a mirror if you want. I personally do it when I travel seating in a airplane.
Focus on a part of yourself that is afraid or feel unappreciated. Check your thoughts for self-criticisms and other negativity. And do your best to locate where these feelings are in your body. Maybe, you have these feelings in your throat, your chest , your solar plexus or your forehead or maybe anywhere else in your body.
Now, you have a point to focus on. As the feeling arise say to yourself “Yes!”. You say “yes” to acknowledge what you feel rather than pushing it away and making an attempt at repressing it.
Feel the emotion and even rest in in it then say to the emotion “I love you!”.
Continue like this until you feel at peace. You will see if you stick with the technique you will reach a point of well-being.
If you are a creative person and you are unsatisfied with your performance; you can use this on the part of yourself that is doing the negative criticism. You will see that once you let go of this your performance will improve. It helped me personally to access a new level of creativity with my video creation. I got ideas that I never thoughts of before! This is a good exercise to play with.
Approach Anxiety
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“scared to approach her?”
Many guys suffer from what is called “Approach Anxiety”. This is the fear of approaching and interacting with a stranger you find attractive.
Approach anxiety can only exist in a reality where someone is looking for love or approval outside of himself. Looking for love outside of yourself cause indeed anxiety because 1) there is risk you do not receive it 2) there is risk of rejection or that your sense of self worth risk to be threatened causing an even more deep sense of not being loved.
There is no love outside of yourself. Looking for love where it is not, can only cause trouble and disappointment.
Once you decide to love yourself to give yourself approval. You will not get any anxiety from approaching strangers you find attractive even if they reject you. In fact, in many cases strangers will appraoch you instead.
If someone rejects you, it is only for two reasons because you are also rejecting yourself on some level (Like attracts like) or it is about them, rejecting themselves on some level.
Guys who do not love themselves think they are not enough and that they need to do something about it such as learning seduction techniques. What the seductionists seducers do is to put a good show for a girl and they hope to be rewarded for it.
Just like a 4-year old kid would do to get approval from the parents. Seduction is for emotionally immature people that are still in small children within.
Seduction experts will tell you that the fear of rejection will never truly leave you. Of course, being a seduction expert is basically chasing in the outside what is not really there. It can only feel painful at the end.
If you suffer from approach anxiety learn to give yourself approval and decide to be the source of love.
Love is a state of givingness. No need to be a love-hungry cannibal 
There is a technique you can do that is called polarity surfing. It is very simple. You just have to accept both sides of a topic by accepting both sides they dissolve in each other then it is easy to decide which side you want to experience. You are no longer in a state of resistance.
If you drop resisting being rejected then you free the energy, you can allow yourself to be accepted.
Here is the polarity surfing release you can do:
- Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be rejected by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be accepted by women/men as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to love and accept myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it. - Ask yourself out loud:
Can I allow myself to be guilty and reject myself as much as I do ?
Answer yes or no, out loud, and feel it.
Go back and forth between these release until you feel at peace or some relief. You can continue with:
Can I allow myself to be my own source of love?
Can I deny myself to be my own source of love?
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Raise your vibration (Sending Out Love)
Posted by: | CommentsIf you are into Love Sending (What Is Love Sending?) here is a cool trick you can add to your session to give more impact.
If your session is 15 minutes creates a 15 minutes recording with affirmations. You can add a background music if you want. Play your recording while you are sending out love. It will make the session more powerful.
Affirmation B can build on affirmation A and so on. Example:
A: I belong to the infinity and there is one infinity
B: Because, I belong to the infinity I can love myself and accept myself
C: Because, I love and I accept myself I can love and accept others
etc….
You get the idea?
The other way to do it. It’s to play your favorite spiritual lecture in the background. Both method will raise your vibration even higher as you send out love. It does not matter if you cannot catch everything that it is being said. You do this to create an atmosphere. The part you will catch is the part you need to hear to raise your vibration.
Lack Of Love
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If someone is telling you or if yourself you are telling “You never say, I love you to me!”
You can be sure that the person making that statement or variation of that statement is the person with some issue.
The issue at play here is a lack of love or the inability to feel loved. It is sometimes observed as a feeling of emptiness. In relationship, it may take the form of co-dependency.
It is often associated with the themes of abandonment, the fear of losing the love of someone if the needs of that person aren’t met, the fear to be alone and not loved and much more.
At the core of the problem, there is a belief in unworthiness.
Unworthiness causes a lack of love. Usually, an individual in such a condition will create difficult conditions to feel loved and when these conditions are met because that individual feel unworthy, they will be difficult to maintain.
Such a person does not understand that love IS NOT and NEVER coming from the outside!!!
What people do today is this. They meet someone and they say “OK, I meet this person now. I will allow myself to love myself”
Because, it is really what it is.
When you say “oh, I lost the love, nobody loves me now”.
It is simply a decision not to feel your own love. Because, the only love that can be ever felt is your own.
In the Universe, there is no such thing as outside, time and space. All that stuffs are illusions created by the YOU that you really are.
Now, there is no outside, there is no space, there is no time. How about others?
Well, you are the one perceiving. You perceive your own created version of the others.
The real OTHERS you do not perceive, just like you might feel separated from the real YOU that you are.
For the others to play a part in your life, there is always love involved. Love is a strong motivational force. Because the others love you, they accept to play a role in your reality for you to better yourself.
This is what relationships are for. For you to BE THE BEST, YOU CAN BE!
There is often stronger love and deeper bound between two enemies than two friends.
For a soul to play the role of a worse enemy and take the risk to meet with a tragic end as a physical individual strong love, commitment and courage must be present.
Through that karmic contracts, the two souls will evolve through a journey of contrast Hate/Love and make their own conclusion at the end of it.
For a second, see your physical life as a Hollywood TV show and see yourself as the producer of the show. If you aren’t happy with it. You can c the rule!
If you can only feel love when your partner says “I love you”. How about deciding to feel love, when you see a tree, a dog, when you are alone. How about deciding to feel love when you give love?
You see it is not complicated to create easy situations to feel love.
Frederick Dodson – Fire Of Love
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Accompanied by a pleasant relaxing new age music, Frederick Dodson offers this guided meditation called “Fire of Love” on his website http://www.realitycreation.net/.
The guided meditation starts with a series of instruction to cleanse your body through a yogic breathing exercise. Once it is done you are asked to focus on someone from your life on the same time you have to repeat a series of affirmations such as “Just like me this person as experienced bad time”. They are other affirmations to repeat. I believe the intention is to establish some link that help you to recognize that as a human being, we are all one and we go through various challenge in life that help us to know better about ourselves. The result of such process is a feeling of compassion for yourself and the other person.
Once you finish the process, you are guided to repeat it with several other persons, one after the other. If you have done it correctly then the effect will be cumulative allowing you to feel greater compassion.
In the next segment of the guided meditation, you are guided to forgive yourself or to put it in another way to accept yourself the way you presently are.
Instead of being angry at yourself for some BIG mistake you made in the past, recognize how this event helped in learning something about you that you would not have known otherwise , you can love yourself even if you make mistakes. That’s the idea.
On the next segment, Frederick Dodson guides you to experience again some of your pleasant memories that brought you joy, love and happiness. According to Dodson the past doesn’t exist when you bring back something from your memory to your mind, you start to attract this thing back to your life. Memories are created in the now, because the now , the present is all there is. If you are negatively affected by a traumatic memory from your past , which is really something that you are creating now then you can CHOOSE to bring to your awareness a positive memory that will positively affect you. That’s the idea.
Once you feel the love , the compassion , the joy inside you, Dodson guides you to feel even more love by CHOOSING and ALLOWING yourself to feel more love. As closing instructions, you are asked to bring this love, compassion and joy in your daily life and to offer it to the people you meet.
Even though, in my own Love Meditation, I work more with energies (visualizing light, chanting mantras)This guided meditation by Dodson is working very well for me and will work for many personality types. I recommend the Dodson Fire of Love if you like guided meditation or if what Klaus Joehle (energy sending approach) offered isn’t working for you.
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