Apr

Is there any obstacles to your goals ?

Often people are stuck unable to progress toward their goals, it happens because they haven’t worked their weaknesses early enough, in fact working on the weaknesses and possible obstacles should be a priority.

Write down your goal:
I want _________________________________________________
Write the list of the things that prevent you to get what you want.

Do you have the skill necessary to achieve your goal ?
Do you have the discipline ?
Do you have the energy to work on it ?
Do you have all the information to do it ?
Do you fear success ?
Do you fear failure ?
Do you require to have the approval of your spouse, parents or loved ones to go ahead toward your goal ?

Imagine your goal is to open a store but you have a lot of worries about your accounting skill, if you go ahead without doing something for that, that will hold you back later on. Either go to an accounting class or consider hiring an accountant.
May be, you are afraid to fail and this belief is surely going to sabotage your effort, you had better to do something about it now rather than later because it will get a lot worse later on.

The need to have someone else approval is a huge block for many people, may be, you are a successful accountant, banker or programmer and then you want to start a new career as a stand-up comedian you talk to it to your spouse and dang ! big disapproval.
What are you going to do ? See, you will advance faster if you are free of the need for approval. Now, some people use “approval seeking” has a propulsion strategy this is the case for many stars in the show business.
You can read the Will Smith profile on this page, like many of his Hollywood he is an approval seeker.

I would not recommend anyone to copy such a strategy, we know the celebrities only on the outside but you see in the inside “approval seeking” is a source of strong inner insecurity. You see there is a reason why someone like Will Smith always play in the same type of movies, the same type of roles. He doesn’t want to risk losing approval by playing a role people aren’t too used to see him play.

You can work most of the psychological obstacles with EFT .

There is this exercise about Money block on the EFT website:

Find (or borrow) a banknote of a reasonably large denomination and simply place it in front of you on a desk or table. What springs to mind? What emotions do you feel when you look at it? When I’ve tested this procedure with people, it was most interesting to note what a variety of negative responses occurred. From, “I don’t believe this is mine”, via “I don’t deserve to have this”, to “There’s no point getting attatched to it, someone will just come and take it away anyhow” – a whole range of depressing, unhappy, and generally truly negative responses were present when you simply confronted an every day adult with a bank note.
This became even more pronounced when I picked up the note, held it out to the person and said loudly, “Here you go, (name), this is for you.” Not a single one of my “success coaching” clients could take the money without feeling seriously bad for a whole range of complicated reasons!
The format was just to keep tapping and testing each time by bringing out the bank note again until there was no negative response left and the person took the note happily, readily, and even with a smile in some cases.
If you are intending to do some “money work” by yourself or with friends, use the following as “triggers” (like the spider would be to the spider phobic) to find the aspects of the problem:
…single bank notes of various denominations…a pile of banknotes (boy that is a set of interesting aspects!)…a single large coin (this brings out childhood memories)…a pile of coins (this brings out childhood memories relating to savings)
Then, we can go on to clear other money related aspects by using some of the following in the same, straightforward way (which is always: trigger, test, tap, trigger, test):
…bank statements (serial spending and saving habits …payslips/wage packets (apart from career issues, this brings out family/father issues from childhood)…credit cards (imagine me laughing here – talk about negative emotions coming to the fore!)…credit card statements (which have different aspects to the actual plastic card)…building society books, share certificates, or any other paper representation of money that features large in the individual person’s life…bills and invoices (and especially the red variety
Financial limits are wonderfully explored by using a friend and both their chequebook and yours. Write each other cheques for ever increasing sums of money and hand them to each other. This can bring out not only the pain of accepting large sums of money, but conversely also the pain of letting go! “Money constipation” is just as damaging to a healthy financial system as is “money diarrhea” (where you don’t earn but keep on spending regardless), “money anorexia” (where you neither earn nor spend) or “money bulimia” (where you earn but spend immediately so there’s no noticeable gain at the end of the day).
Lastly (and this is a personal favourite of mine) we have what I call “potential money” such as lottery tickets, gambling slips and scratch cards. Entwined in these you will find issues around luck, deservability, and, most interesting of all, often a belief that “this is the ONLY HOPE I could possibly have to ever become really rich”.*
*A note: Tapping away negative feelings on lottery tickets does not turn someone into a compulsive gambler. On the contrary. It can actually help with compulsive gambling to dis-engage emotion from the trigger the lottery tickets (as well as game shows, horse races and so on) represent.

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If you want to start a project and people around you strongly disapproved it. You can use an EFT setup like this:

Even though people have no clue about what I’m doing ….

If you do not know how to go about your project do a mind map of your project that will give several directions to look for more information. Would you like to write a book ? Then do a mind map you will have a global vision of your project from that point it will be easier to divide the project into small parts and tasks.

The whole point is to have clarity, the clearer it gets the easier it is to achieve your goals.