People don’t know who they are , Dr. Cialdini author of “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” explains that, “When you describe the benefits it’s not sufficient to describe what they’ll gain. The psychological research is very clear, that people are up to five times more motivated by the idea of losing something, than they are of gaining that very same thing.”

I believe the reason for such results is that people don’t know themselves otherwise if they knew themselves, they will have a lot less fear. You can choose to keep a fear, let says the fear of falling off of your roof when you are working on it. That fear might help you to be more concentrated on the work, that fear you will not cause you to fall off the roof because your drive to live is a lot stronger. Now, there is obviously a framework where no fear is present and working on the roof is no big deal.
Fear of losing something, fear of the unknown….If I have a fear of losing something I will handle it that way, I will relax take a paper and pen I will explore my belief that cause me to fear to lose something, I will try to go at the root of the belief.
May be, it is something I learned from my parent when I was kid, may be, when I was kid I lost my best toy, I had a lot of anger for that and my parent never bought a new one. So I kept that fear in me as I grew older , may be ?

Once, I found the core belief that cause me to have a fear of loss, I will see if it isn’t entangled to others core belief such a belief in lack. Advertisers constantly use the idea of scarcity to sell their products may be at some point I bought into that. I will continue to investigate until I get to the bottom.

Once at the bottom I will have the understanding of the belief how it is affecting my life and my behavior and I will be able to act the way I want as opposed to automatically react. It is also important to not deny YOU the totality of you. If one aspect of you is a jackass then express that, it will do no good to suppress and to pretend to be something that you are not. The gripe I have with some parts of the Zeitgeist Addendum is that they advocate “pretending” and “re-education”. If you are not Light and Love then pretending will not do it.
If the automatic reaction of some situation is too strong then you can work with system like EFT but otherwise just having the understanding and choosing will be enough.
If someone has paedophile tendency going at a therapy to talk and talk is going to do not much …the understanding comes from within and is discovered alone. The therapist understanding of a patient is still his understanding the patient may be seduced by the intellectual information he received and try to act on it but there is little chance that it leads to long term change. If someone wants to change that will be alone.

I believe that you can seek your own truth without being someone special, there is no need to be special, you can be a regular person and have great wisdom and a profound understanding of the real you. Someone of you want to do that in group of like minded people, it is ok to do that if you want to but understand that you are doing it for the experience and the sharing. The understanding of your own being will be achieved by yourself not anyone else. Once you understand your own being you will experience without fear of your own personal power.

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