How to recover from a failed relationship

I want to talk about ways individuals could use to recover from a failed relationship. Often when a relationship end in bad term, we might feel some guilt, betrayal, resentment, anger, disappointment and even loss of self confidence. Some people told me after there failed relationship that they will never fall in love again because love is too painful.

If a relationship has ended on a bad term chance is that the relationship still continue on a mental level. Repeating episodes of the failed relationship in the mind generates a lot of thoughts , thoughts have a magnetic quality to them, they tend to attract-like thoughts. That’s why replaying episodes of a failed relationship can continue long long time many years in some case. The cause of conflict that ended a relationship are usually not to be found in the relationship itself but in the belief system of the partners.

If someone could write down all the things they sincerely believe deep down in the bottom of their heart, they will probably lay down the cause of the conflict. One might have the following beliefs : Men cannot be trusted, Love never last long, I’m not worthy a great relationship….These beliefs might have many roots such as parents or any influential figure from early childhood. These beliefs that make up the self-image are likely to show up sooner or later in a relationship, ideally they have to be taken for what they really are an opportunity to grow.

When one recognize the detrimental beliefs he or she has, that person is ready to let go of the old. If you have old baggage affirm that you let go of them. You can write the old beliefs on a paper and burn the paper as a symbol of turning the page. However, it is important to know that a detrimental beliefs are often a member a tree of like beliefs. While a person let go of the old beliefs , he can cultivate new beliefs , creating mental movies of beneficial situation is a good way, affirmation and feeling what it will be like to be in a loving relationship are good exercises.
They create new neural network that will transform in beliefs useful to create a better reality. An example is a woman who got repeated over and over again, that with equal qualification a woman will always be paid less. She might let go of that in her mind and see herself paid at what she thinks her work is worth, as she fills herself with the happy feelings and images, she reprograms herself , her true self will create a new reality with the new belief. It needs to be cultivated.

If you try that and you feel uncomfortable it is because the old system is still in place and influencing the show. Feeling bad is essentially due to reacting if you start observing you can one, accept the situation for what it is and two, let go of it.
Part of the self-growth is to learn to be responsible for your reality this imply learning to not accept other people beliefs as your.

The only way to be self-confident and happy in love is to know and accept yourself. When you achieve that creating a last loving relationship will not be a problem, guarantee.

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