“… Many of you go to sleep thinking about yesterday, today and tomorrow. Going through everything in minute detail, what did I do today and all of this? Every moment that you are in existence is gone in the blink of an eye. So what does ten minutes ago have to do with the present ?”
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I want to talk about ways individuals could use to recover from a failed relationship. Often when a relationship end in bad term, we might feel some guilt, betrayal, resentment, anger, disappointment and even loss of self confidence. Some people told me after there failed relationship that they will never fall in love again because love is too painful.
If a relationship has ended on a bad term chance is that the relationship still continue on a mental level. Repeating episodes of the failed relationship in the mind generates a lot of thoughts , thoughts have a magnetic quality to them, they tend to attract-like thoughts. That’s why replaying episodes of a failed relationship can continue long long time many years in some case. The cause of conflict that ended a relationship are usually not to be found in the relationship itself but in the belief system of the partners.
If someone could write down all the things they sincerely believe deep down in the bottom of their heart, they will probably lay down the cause of the conflict. One might have the following beliefs : Men cannot be trusted, Love never last long, I’m not worthy a great relationship….These beliefs might have many roots such as parents or any influential figure from early childhood. These beliefs that make up the self-image are likely to show up sooner or later in a relationship, ideally they have to be taken for what they really are an opportunity to grow. (more…)