Tough Love is OK
During my deep trance meditation I had “episodes” of pure unconditional love in that state of consciousness judgement, jealousy, resentment, hatred , anger are impossible to express, there is such a strong sense of oneness that the only expression available is pure unconditional acceptance nothing else is available.
However, deep trance meditation isn’t real world, many people grow in the framework of a relationship, a relationship is like a training program where one is challenged to grow and evolve.
If you have a partner who love to burn the dog with cigarettes, I’m not sure pure unconditional love will do much for the partner to evolve. Tough love is more appropriate a love that says “because, I love I want you be able to recognize your mistakes and learn from them, I’m here to help to do that”
Contrary to pure unconditional love , tough love is not passive , there is action in it.
