Getting out of Shyness
During that year I wasn’t particularly in good shape so I enrolled in a fitness program including running, swimming, body building, stretching and breathing exercises , it did great for my health and my energy level , it also had the tiny side effect to boost my self-confidence.
However, one night I had the strange idea to try something new, I was deeply relaxed in my bed and I imagined myself received appreciation and love from all the girl I met during the 6 years of secondary school (high school I think in North America), not one , not two, but all of them, it takes just a couple of second per girl.
As I felt the love from them I eventually convinced myself that I’m truly loved. I also used a couple of affirmations ‘The more I love myself the more I love others’, ‘It is easier and easier for me to love others’.
I did this until I was feeling a strong feeling of love and euphoria in me, I fell asleep.
The next days and weeks were kind of weird, because I was completely changed, I have never changed so fast before, I was feeling strong self-confidence best of all I was completely devoid of any kind of insecurity, self-doubt or fears, for instance, after class, instead of taking bus to go home, I walked on the street if I saw a girl from my College in a car, I would knock the window and I ask her to take me, it worked great, at that point it was irrelevant what people reaction will be to me, I was not caring what people think of me, I was so full of self-confidence and devoid of any shame or guilt feelings.
An irresistible sense of humor grew in me at the same time, during class, I told jokes and all the people in the class laughed so much , they were all breathless and when they manage to be calm again, I told them a final joke, so they continued laughing, I literally owned the people from my class, one day the teacher noticed that I had all the girls sitting around me and the guys were insularized at the other end of the classroom , so instead of starting her course, she asked me how many girlfriends I have.
It was great time, random girls approached and asked me to go at her house to “study” with them, I even had a soon-to-be-married who gave me her phone to arrange a night we could “study”, I didn’t know she was soon to be married when I phoned her , her fiancé took the phone, he was shocked and very surprised, nevertheless, I was a very popular, just after I did this exercise I mentioned earlier.
So if you are suffering from shyness , social phobia, people at your work don’t respect you, do the exercise I did, imagine that all the people you have met in schoolyears, college years or during you work life appreciate you and love you, sooner or later you will convince yourself that you are truly loved.
This is exercise works best if you do it in a deep state of trance, (deep theta), because the negative emotional background and the internal censor wont be there to tell you that you don’t deserve.
Having an healthy life seems to help too, I can’t really weight the role of a fitness program, but it sure play a part to be balanced.
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April 8th, 2007 01:33
I will try!!!
April 8th, 2007 06:55
I have just watched The Secret. May I recommend to you that you do everything you can to get a copy and watch it. I am sure you will relate to it.
April 8th, 2007 16:55
very interesting tip. visualizing people from your past loving you changed you so much people in your present life noticed and you noticed. amazing.
April 9th, 2007 00:44
@marziè
yes, try and let us know , what you got from the exercise.
@TerryG
Lately, people told me to see “The Secret” and “What the bleep do we know”. I think both are indie films about the Law of Attraction, principle I’m very familiar with, may be, in the future Hollywood will produce such movies.
April 9th, 2007 08:07
Hi,
Thank you for that technique. It sounds like a gem! I will try it out maybe tonight if I get the chance.
I’d like to ask you if you had any techniques on asking your higherself for wisdom on certain issues?
Also, how often do you meditate?
April 9th, 2007 23:34
Hi Henry,
I meditate everyday several times per day on various subjects.
About receiving wisdom on certain issues, I stumble upon this today, I think it is right on the point, because, this is also my opinion.
It is from Klaus Joehle book, Living on Love:Money is Love.
“See, you ask a question “How many deer are there in these woods?” See, you try to sit there and think of a number. That causes a little bit of confusion in your brain, because your brain isn’t really trained to give you a number the way it was with the mathematics. Now you could train your brain to do exactly that, but it’s not been trained to do that. So why, go against the grain? Start allowing a story to unfold.
When we say “How many deer?” there are 18 births, 2 died, 9 males, the rest females. Some in this month, some in that month… Just let it unfold like that, you know? Originally, when I started working with this and doing these things, I’d work it out, so here you have the story and I’d noticed that at the beginning of it would be a little bit shaky and then as I get into it, accuracy, actually increases. As your story unfolds, the accuracy increases to. Because your mind is starting to get an idea of what it is supposed to do. It’s a really neat process and it’s a fun process, because you take the answers from “in you”.
And here is the really nifty part – your inner direction can direct those thoughts that come up in your mind. So when you ask personal questions, perhaps “What would be best for you to do? How’d you best find your joy? What path of the two paths to take?” Let the story unfold inside of you? Your inner self, that larger part of you, knows what you want if you basically put it into your mind what you want. I could explain it as “as much joy in my life, as possible”. If that’s what it is you want, I’m just saying that.”
May 30th, 2007 05:18
Louis, this “imagining everybody loves me” thing is simply great! It’s simple — but gives me so many feelings! Thanks for sharing!