Getting out of Shyness

However, one night I had the strange idea to try something new, I was deeply relaxed in my bed and I imagined myself received appreciation and love from all the girl I met during the 6 years of secondary school (high school I think in North America), not one , not two, but all of them, it takes just a couple of second per girl.
As I felt the love from them I eventually convinced myself that I’m truly loved. I also used a couple of affirmations ‘The more I love myself the more I love others’, ‘It is easier and easier for me to love others’.
I did this until I was feeling a strong feeling of love and euphoria in me, I fell asleep.

The next days and weeks were kind of weird, because I was completely changed, I have never changed so fast before, I was feeling strong self-confidence best of all I was completely devoid of any kind of insecurity, self-doubt or fears, for instance, after class, instead of taking bus to go home, I walked on the street if I saw a girl from my College in a car, I would knock the window and I ask her to take me, it worked great, at that point it was irrelevant what people reaction will be to me, I was not caring what people think of me, I was so full of self-confidence and devoid of any shame or guilt feelings.

An irresistible sense of humor grew in me at the same time, during class, I told jokes and all the people in the class laughed so much , they were all breathless and when they manage to be calm again, I told them a final joke, so they continued laughing, I literally owned the people from my class, one day the teacher noticed that I had all the girls sitting around me and the guys were insularized at the other end of the classroom , so instead of starting her course, she asked me how many girlfriends I have.

It was great time, random girls approached and asked me to go at her house to “study” with them, I even had a soon-to-be-married who gave me her phone to arrange a night we could “study”, I didn’t know she was soon to be married when I phoned her , her fiancé took the phone, he was shocked and very surprised, nevertheless, I was a very popular, just after I did this exercise I mentioned earlier.
So if you are suffering from shyness , social phobia, people at your work don’t respect you, do the exercise I did, imagine that all the people you have met in schoolyears, college years or during you work life appreciate you and love you, sooner or later you will convince yourself that you are truly loved.

This is exercise works best if you do it in a deep state of trance, (deep theta), because the negative emotional background and the internal censor wont be there to tell you that you don’t deserve.

Having an healthy life seems to help too, I can’t really weight the role of a fitness program, but it sure play a part to be balanced.

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