Paradoxes of Performances and success
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The harder you try to get into the zone the further away you get
Performance anxiety the need to succeed a particular task can make it difficult or impossible to achieve it, I had some of this when I worked with the Gateway Experience (A series of guided meditations) letting go of trying to be in your zone of best performance will make it easier to reach this zone.
Over-control get you out of control
Control is often a fear that we might fail so we want to control every steps, every little things to the point that nothing is left to chance, this will probably work for a group of stuntmen working on a complex cascade but at an individual level it is best to have trust in yourself in that part of yourself that can handle it, it is especially truth if you are a stuntman 
but this advice stand true for any situations.
Fear of failure makes failure more likely
We get what we focus on, if we focus on failure then we create it. Yes, I know this kind of rude because it assumes that we are responsible for our destiny. However, I believe it is best to be fully in charge rather than being like a boat in a storm, some of us prefer to be like that, the boat in the storm and they will blame the circumstances , the people or whatever, when we focus on failure, there is often some self-sabotage involved. Focus on success is good, it makes easier to achieve our goal, time to time, I enjoy to visualize my ideal day, it works fine gives inspiration and ideas to go further in my endeavour.
Playing it safe can be dangerous
Usually, the very things we fear to do contain the keys of a big goal, a dream that we are so afraid to go for. I observe a lot of that in people, they will talk to me a lot about the things they would like to do, but at some point they told me , they cant do it for some reason.
The reasons are usually excuses to not do it, we often fear that we cannot handle it.
I always say go for your dreams,do something, if it doesn’t work at first fine, you will learn to get it right for the next time.
A step backward is step forward
Sometime we start a new things at first we have some of the ‘beginner luck’ and then we start to do it poorly, we take a step backward, however, if we stick to it and persevere to improve, we can make it.
The probability of getting the outcome you want increases fear when you let go of the need to get it
This is so important, the more attached you are to an outcome, the more you will worry, make false conclusions and ending self-saboting yourself, just because, a strong feeling of need is a focus of lack, which easily lead to a focus on failure and when you are focused on failure you will create it.
No focus on the past, no focus on the future, just have the mind on the now, it is great thing to do , being totally absorbed by what you are doing, the more you do that, the easier it will be to have a white moment , described by Psychology Today as follow:
When creativity is in full fire, people can experience what athletes and performers call the “white moment.” Everything clicks. Your skills are so perfectly suited to the challenge that you seem to blend with it. Everything feels harmonious, unified, and effortless.
That white moment is what psychologists call “flow.” In flow, people are at their peak. Flow can happen in any domain of activity. The one requirement is that your skills so perfectly match the demands of the moment that all self-consciousness disappears.
To incorporate these advices it will be beneficial to read and meditate on them for a couple of weeks, it will even better to experiment with them, true knowledge is knowledge you have experienced.
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