Making a first impression

I read a book called ‘First Impression’ by Ann Demarais and Valerie White both consultant in social dynamics. The book gives a series of methods to make a positive first impression and from there build good rapport. A first impression is the way you will make someone feel the first time you approach him or her, the person based on this first interaction might build a certain image of you and use it as filter to color your rapport. Obviously, if the first impression you make is one of unfriendliness the person you interact with will literally color the rapport with you by reacting to that image of unfriendliness that you radiate out.

As for the methods, the book talks about
accessibility (being approachable, body language)
Showing interest ( To be interesting be interested)
Self-disclosure to begin to build up some intimacy

The book contains good advice on social skill, however and as far as making a first impression is concerned I found out a far easier method rather than mastering a series of social skills, try this fill yourself with the feeling of appreciation for the person or people you are going to meet and see what happens, face it, when you are upset or depressed you affect the people you meet with the feeling you carry, if you are happy you will tend to make others people feel happier, now if you fill yourself with a feeling of appreciation and gratitude for the people you are going to meet then not only you will feel better but you will radiate something that others will pick up from you, that you actually appreciate them. This method works better than anything else but reading about it or thinking about it will do nothing, you really have to try and see what happens, if you are not attuned to your own feelings it can be a bit difficult at first, if they are a lot of things that you don’t like about yourself, those things may show up when you try to have a feelings of appreciation however if you can pass that you are ready for a new level of rapport.

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